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Demonising Dissent



Rabindranath Tagore, the Nobel laureate of India, emphasised on “Where the mind is without fear and the head is held high… into that land of freedom, my Father, let my country awake.” Lofty and liberating indeed and certainly aspirational for each one of us, impelling us to live with dignity, self respect and free speech. These eternal words were constantly reinforced in me both, by my mother and my grandfather since my childhood, and to date I continue to risk my life trying to abide by this belief. Wait, did you read risk? Yes, I did write risk! If you are one of the lesser mortals who has ever tried to live your life on these lines and are a working professional in a corporate set up these words are bound to kindle your deepest hurt and revive the old spirit that will abandon you tomorrow morning soon after your punch in time!


It is precisely for this reason that the ongoing strike by the Uber and Ola drivers elicits my admiration regardless of the extreme inconvenience it has put me through. At least these chaps can remain united, can chalk up their demands, put it forth before their bosses and not be issued letters of warning or disciplinary mails! In other words, they can speak their mind and express dissent unmindful of the consequences. Now, all of us working professionals are very aware of what such a strike or demonstration from us could mean… even considering one such is inconceivable in sectors like education, we even have the Orwellian “thought control” or ‘seeds’ who can report a dissent even before it is expressed. 


Besides the obvious, there are fundamental reasons why at least educators need to inculcate the value of dissent in the succeeding generations and actively participate in expressing such, wouldn’t you think? Well, your nodding of your head, sideways or vertical, depends on what rung of the management you are placed in. Considering the lingo in the IB (International Baccalaureate) World Schools, it would be an enthusiastic affirmative nod as a young teacher brimming with ideals, slightly guarded, if you have already clocked in a couple of years, a cynical sneer if you are a Head of Department, Coordinator and the like and a downright sideways shake of the head if you are a Head of Secondary, Principal or anything remotely close to that! You would probably be reaching out to typing out a letter of dismissal if you are a trustee or Director of the institution!! 


Now, why dissent or worse still how can there be any scope for dissent in an education sector you ask? Well, that is precisely the matter. The sheer ignorance of such a vital need in itself is at the core of my argument. I am not talking of dissent to teaching classes, or in marking or stopping valuation as has become the norm with many University and College peers, am sure they have their good and valid reasons too. I am talking of a basic right to freedom of free speech, the need to express one’s honest opinion without fear or favour, the necessity of calling a spade a spade without having to bother about the proverbial political correctness. Wherein an educator is actually free to tell a set of errant students off for their deplorable behaviour or even express objection firmly to a particularly parvenue and patronising set of parents, unrealistic of their own wards, wherein one can walk up to one’s higher up or a head (most times, headless and heedless actually), and tell them off for the non productive, mundane paperwork or fillers that are grandiosely termed professional development sessions. If you are one such free spirit you would empathise with the dilemma of having to constantly silence that honest, inner voice, which begs to defy and state facts not meekly nod at nonsense that is repeated and echoed by your rather sycophantic colleagues who feign interest. Now, if this head is an expat, then heaven forbid! For each word, syllable and grunt is and ought to be the gospel and nothing short of it. With much respect to all my honourable and truly intelligent and amiable expat friends, many such ‘imports’ are pompous dolts that have trapeze into this sector or worse still to our nation to ‘experience India’. Imagine having to listen to the rants of such soulful masters in post independent India, wherein they wax eloquent about R K Narayan or a Ramanujan and stop there with a smug assumption that the rest of the Indian multitudes need to be schooled in everything from education to enunciation, from learning to teaching… as they drone on in a sonorous tone that barring themselves hardly anyone else cares to listen to. In fact, one such head, in the recent past had actually asked me, an English teacher with over a decade of experience in teaching, if I knew the meaning of “road rage” as though he had invented the term personally. This, while I was offering him a lift in my car! That is the smugness and sense of entitlement am speaking of. After a momentary, “Do I dare and do I dare…” (Eliot’s words from Lovesong of Alfred J Prufrock), not only did I demonstrate that but explained the varieties, forms, and the extent to which road rage permeates various Indian cities, for I was adequately enraged by this patronising!


Now, imagine when such entitled, myopic, luminescent (read expats that are Euro Centric/American) folks take it upon themselves to teach us how to teach, talk and interact with one another, with our students and with our parent community….do you see my point? They fail to comprehend our students’ need and expectations to be disciplined by elders, misread our firmness and giving a reality check to our unrealistic and far too demanding parents who treat schools like investment where they expect returns or the paisa vasool (extract money’s worth) regardless of their son or daughter’s academic calibre, or the teachers’ need for having a say in their subject of expertise or within their departments. Unlike us, who have an innate understanding of how to deal with the slackness of  a student or when to actually send out a kid to the school nurse (not for a paper cut!) or when to reprimand an indolent learner who has taken it upon himself or herself to disrupt a class, all of these simple things that can be dealt with on the spot would elicit a staff, department or a meeting with the school counsellor or worse still with the parents, as it all boils down to being nurturing! Nurturing what you wonder? Well, you are still normal then and my hearty congratulations to you on that! Do remember this feeling once you become a parent or if you are one already, try to hold on to this common sense for that is precisely what is being sacrificed at the altar and routinely at that!


Speaking of common sense, my mom always opined that it is so uncommon to find common sense and I could not agree with her more. Especially in this education sector and going by my conversations with people from various walks of life, generally among those in positions of power. There seems to be an inexplicable lacunae in what organisations actually seek, especially those in the business of education. Yes, for most IB schools are run by businessmen who consider institutions offering International Curriculum is a ‘safe investment’. I wonder what propels these monied sections into assuming that the colour of the skin determines merit and calibre, besides the obvious colonial cringe of course. Now, in no way am I a racist. But, if some of our (thinking, speaking and common sense oriented academics) collective experiences are taken into account there seems to be a pattern to this. Not only are these heads hailing from a certain race/ ethnic community, more often even the Indian heads, are those that are pompous, self serving paper pushers who are eager to kill the spirit of inquiry and innovation and sacrifice them at the altar of rules and handbooks that make little or no sense in practice. 


From organising the highly advertised CAS (a core component in International Baccalaureate Diploma Programme; Creativity, Action and Service) trips or leadership camps to facilitating the staff professional development, the ineptitude, pomposity, a wilful self deception and a desire to foster sycophancy is blatantly demonstrated on such forums. How else could one explain a three hour all-staff session on sharing, editing and creating google docs, slides and website? Or a more fancy term such as design thinking, apparently the brainchild of a Harvard professor which his Indian franchisees were merely peddling, wherein the focus is to list out the 63 ways (someone has actually worked out the number!) in which a student can be distracted or demonstrate disinterest and the best ways to cater to that student, albeit nurturing him or her! This indeed was a session wherein the charade continued for over three hours without the workshop leader being able to explain the purpose or a viable outcome of such an exercise! Worse still, I believe that the Principal of this institution actually sent out an all-staff mail hailing the success of this workshop and the value add that it was! Well, if you are one of those who raise an eyebrow at this, just wait for the piece de resistance, a minor section of staff who chose to strongly express displeasure at this deplorable waste of time were actually ‘warned’ for contempt and ‘motivated’ dissent! This, towards a community and from a community that is in charge of shaping formative minds, wherein imparting critical and creative thinking is an expectation, wherein texts such as 1984, Animal Farm or A Doll’s House, are taught and discussed with much passion, wherein gender stereotypes, bias and propaganda, along with parochial mindset of the society is openly questioned. If, like me, you too can spot the irony, then join the club of inspired dissenters. If you are among the rule enforcing, compliance preferring pontiffs who demonise dissent, kindly apply for the post of a head for your qualification and merit stands corroborated. 


Life’s ironies never fail to stupefy, for often, idealism and inspiration like the yearning for freedom or liberation stems from a lot that is subject to oppression and deprivation, seldom has a leader, head or the oppressor shown a proclivity for self reflection. It is precisely for this reason, that a group of women routinely fighting for a dignified workspace in the Malayalam film industry or the cabbies fighting for what they believe is their right finds resonance in me and a faint hope that just some day in the distant future educators too express dissent with conviction. Maybe in a distant future, those in charge of shaping young minds remain true to their own beliefs and opt to speak their mind without fear, for then alone can a land, country or a world hold its head high for fostering fearless freedom and confidence in lieu of political correctness and a habitual deference to mediocrity. 


- A G K 


Making sense of ‘Modi’fication


Jane Austen, describing Emma, spells out her flaws to be, “The real evils indeed of Emma's situation were the power of having rather too much her own way, and a disposition to think a little too well of herself…The danger, however, was at present so unperceived, that they did not by any means rank as misfortunes with her…”

Well, this ought to be rather interesting, as centuries later, these same attributes, please note the word here is attributes and not flaws (lest I be arrested for sedition!), are shared by our venerable, noble PM, a 66 year old man with a 56 inch chest! Now, whether the PM has actually measured his chest personally, had it measured by his trusted aides or whether it is a metaphorical reference to his feats as a leader of the masses, only the PM will be able to throw light upon, perhaps at the next rock concert. Lesser mortals such as myself should suffice to bow down or cower in obeisance, else my nationality, nationalism and credentials as a Hindu might be called into serious scrutiny. He can never be accused of being lenient with the tardy dissenters, and as his venerable self had expounded in one of the televised interviews, one cannot feel sorry for a puppy being run over while heading towards the larger good and welfare of the citizenry as a whole. Now, these words might be chilling in a democratic set up, a leader of the masses, a visionary implying nonchalance on the collateral damage. But, the fault dear reader, “lies in our stars”, our starry eyed, myopic outlook towards our celebrities and leaders. Starved for role models, decisive leadership and clear articulation of policies, we wilfully and foolishly based our choice with an intent to stave off another idiot and mommy’s boy, from ruling the roost. The mandate was against the centuries old Congress, specialising in scams and policy paralysis, headed by a mumbling old gentleman. In our enthusiasm to root them out, we voted a man who belaboured on his physical prowess (56 inches chest), vociferously vilified a Gandhi legacy and blurred the lines of history and mythology, while promoting himself as a mythic figure that would save this nation of 6 billion people with the claim, nah, proclamation of “achche din”. Now, dear reader please note that he never specified whom the achche din would embrace. Now, in hindsight, if this resonates with the recent folly of US which has thrown up a Trump card, we can at least take solace that the phrase, ignorant masses, is no longer a euphemistic response to Indians alone. Phew! we did manage it finally, our thinking matches that of the US and of the UK, our former masters! Can we now exult in unison for thinking like the White Man?!

Sorry, I digress, it is an affront in these days of the Saffron to take pride in anything that is non Indian, instead, let me suffice to say that impulse and hate is also a Make (and Made) in India, and we now need to copyright that forthwith. Speaking of copyright, I wonder if this effort would result in any monetary benefits, i.e. if there is a payment in the pipeline for this admission?! I would certainly insist on the payment being made through paytm, or through a card, no cash for me post November 8th. Neither am I a dissenter, an anti-national nor one with black money to entertain illegal cash transactions that my leader is taking such pains to root out. We are expressing our solidarity by routinely taking off from work to engage in productive activities like lining up before the ATM centres and at the Banks to either trade in the illegal tender, or withdraw the odd note to tease a fruit and vegetable vendor with, or to simply admire the colour and texture of the new notes, a cheerful futschia pink and green ones! What our venerable PM has not yet pointed out is that while the pink ones promote his  beti bachaon abhiyan, the green ones show reverence to the hard working, kisans, routinely committing suicide. Wouldn't their families be thrilled that their deaths have not gone unacknowledged, each time a naagrik uses the 500 rupee note or each farmer family that is compensated will and should recall this noble vision of our Pradhan Mantri! It is a different matter that the 500 rupee ones are in short supply and the 2000 rupee ones celebrating the girl child is omnipresent. Maybe this is the reason the pink notes are frowned upon in keeping with the bhartiya sabhyata towards the womenfolk. Nevertheless, we must desist from complaining as this is a “short term pain for long term gains”, both the PM and the finance minster have repeatedly promised this. 

Despite such astute counsel and persistent reminders over the radio, the PM’s Man ki baat is not easy to comprehend, let alone follow. The pseudo Hindus in the Opposition parties, intellectuals and artists have often tried to malign his goodwill with insidious remarks and adjectives branding him an autocrat, and a megalomaniac with scant respect for the parliamentary process. But the ardent followers shall not be induced to self doubt by these lesser mortals, because we know that these are the people who are “crying for their lost money”. Long queues outside the banks, a sudden crash in the GDP and in the growth index, and cynical dismissals issued by the ilk of Shashi Tharoor and Raghuram Rajan, are only defectors and anti nationals who are sullying the honour of a leader who has left his home and hearth “to serve the nation”. How many rallies, concerts or radio interviews can the PM possibly address? Have they not considered that even Bollywood celebrities like the Khans are completely on board with this move? Have they not been watching the government endorsed adverts suggesting cashless economy and paying through mobile phones? Have they not learnt that the coffers of our banks is brimming over with the deposited amount by its citizenry?

It surely is a wilful, malicious propaganda that deliberates on the deaths caused by demonetisation, as if the Sun had no role to play, in the heat induced strokes? It again is mindless rigidity that does not heed to the ‘modi”fying practices of a visionary. Instead of lamely complaining about inability to access one’s own money, isn’t it the need of the hour to watch the incessant beaming of our PM’s visit to the US, UK, and other countries, where he is accorded unprecedented reception? We need to take cues from our successful brethren, the Adanis, Ambanis and their ilk, who do not waste their time and energy in opposing a great leader. This is one of the reasons why they feature on the Forbes List, unlike the general populace, sweating it out on the streets. It is true that ill informed minions need to be properly guided by a party devoted to ‘creating’ history than merely accepting what is believed to be history.

Therefore, the answers, dear reader are fairly simple, and more significantly, practical. With adequate thought channelling (not thought control!) made possible by our PM’s active endorsement of Yoga, a sound adherence to being a Hindu and understanding that all this money is maaya (no pun on mayawati!) and a devotion to the nation first manifesto by singing out the national anthem routinely and chanting Jai Hind, one can easily tide over such temporary “inconveniences”. I, for one, have already made this part of my morning routine by having our Pradhan Mantriji cooing into my ears his gentle notes of Bhaiyon aur behno to begin my day that is marked by practising Yoga, even as I listen to and sing the National Anthem in gusto, followed by opting to wear the saffron salwar or the khadi suit and heading out to work with the Vandemataram playing on my car stereo. Add to this the fact, that like my PM, I too am a Singleton albeit with no past history of child marriages, as I hail from the South and such glorious tradition is shunned by my irreverent ancestors. However, considering my gender, I shall desist from revealing whether my chest size is 56, 36 or… 

Jai Hind!

A G K

19 December, 2016

Love

A force, a plea
    a sacrifice and a profiteer…
Unwilling to be enslaved, resentful of rules
   Chiding the afflicted with guiles and truths
Cause of wars and of celebrations
A passion and decimation
   a virtue and vice
Harbinger of listlessness and of malice
Pursuer of unending conflicts, usherer of bliss
An emotion and enervation
    Sustaining jealousy, greed and lust
Companion to wanderlust, vanity and wine
Self-serving, possessive and parochial
Privy to dark deeds of incest and worship
A dream, a disenchantment
     a construct and an inspiration
You are beyond knowledge, beyond being
The soul of every living soul
      manifest as the plunderer and pioneer
      as the ascetic and politician
Spewing oracles and treatises through the centuries
      Your conquests belittles history!
An elegance, a lewdness
       a searing wound and grace
In acquisition you infuse disillusion
In loss you enforce victory
          Monstrous, Myriad and Mystical
Always an unrelenting chronicle.



A G K

16 October, 2014

About "Sane and Single"


Embarking on a journey, begins with looking within. Here's an attempt to unlock the mysteries of my mind and probe the labyrinths of my thoughts to unveil a self to me... For knowing oneself is the key to understanding and exploring this quixotic, chaotic and enigmatic world. To quote, Alexander Pope, "A proper study of mankind is man".
A dreamer, thinker, writer and an eternal optimist, I would describe myself as a resilient hope that springs eternally against all odds :)
Besides writing, my interests extend to photography and public speaking. Here is the link to my Tedx Talk entitled:"Waxing Eloquent not on the Wane" 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lI4waoDX9Zk&t=1s
Through this blog, Sane and Single, dedicated to my mom, my biggest fan and my biggest critic, my journey to unraveling my self and the world thus begins...

Two years after launching Sane and Single, again to commemorate my Mom's Birthday, I published Meandering Expressions, dedicated to her, my forever inspiration and role model. 

Meandering Expressions is a unique volume of verses, an eclectic compilation in its form, content and in the use of language. It reflects the inherent plural experience that constitutes our life and living. ME chronicles the many hues of my intricate emotions through the years as a teenager to the present days of the pandemic. It encompasses poems in English to my verses penned in Hindi/ Urdu, that I have also translated into English. It also contains the topical, yet short section entitled, Twitter Verses, that includes my shorter poems that pique and probe these facets of life and living in our modern times. I am sure that reading these verses will resonate with you and your life events too.

https://www.amazon.com/Meandering-Expressions-Asha-G-Kumar-ebook/dp/B08L6MFSTQ/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= (ebook) 

A verse for all moods, occasions and myriad emotions... get your copy now!


My debut novel alongside the potency of love, explores the ‘limits’ to women’s freedom and debunks several stereotypes associated with modern Indian women and their passion. Published by Booklocker, It Must've Been Love, but... it will soon be out! Set in India, it is a candid contemplation into the caprices of human mind and emotions.



Asha G Kumar

Su Casa, Above M&S, Lokhandwala, Andheri West, Mumbai

***** Rated
Visited on 20 October, lunch.


Su Casa, is one of the recent additions in the burgeoning cafe/ restaurant circuit in Oshiwara and Lokhandwala:) I must happily add that this is a good addition! Delectable food, a mix of Mediterranean, Spanish and Italian Cuisine, spacious restaurant with the ambience hinting at fine dining but the pricing cleverly pegged at Cafe levels, Su Casa is a definite, pleasant experience to a foodie.

Located above the by now, synonymous M&S, I loved the fact that one had to climb up, " fight the lazy" to dine at this place. The place is extremely spacious and any Bombayite will gasp at the expansive arena... the really large bar with several seating is another thumbs up. However, the tables could be rearranged, I do feel a lot of space is wasted though... The best seats are the smaller tables, tables for two alongside the glass window-walls and gives one a cozy feeling, an illusion of being in an al fresco.

Now, the service is prompt, friendly and helpful too. The lady who manages the place is ever willing to greet and enquire after your order. However, the waiters could be more trained in the art of speaking, and could do with being more well groomed, in keeping with the decor that underscores fine dining. Likewise with the decor, that seems a little European, though nothing entirely Spanish, considering the name of the restaurant and nothing distinguishing it from any other multiple fine dines in the area. The same goes for the Menu, rather insipid... a dash of colour and vibrancy would do wonders. The description of the food is good and so are the choices.

The best part is surely the food and drinks... The choice of Cocktails is distinct, inviting but fewer in choice. The high point though is the barman is generous! The red wine Sangria: Tropical Malta, was fresh, with a hint of tangy flavour and suitably cooling and immediately put me in the right spirits... The complimentary tapioca chips are generous in portion again and are even warmed to perfection.

The Phylo wrapped artichoke with freta was appetizing and the much recommended, Stuffed Aubergine with pumpkin puree and pesto, was a foodie's delight to the senses... Cooked to perfection, it tasted delicious and left me yearning for more... As promised, the thinly sliced aubergine pieces were beautifully wrapped with stuffings and the sauce made up of pumpkin puree and pesto was mild and flavourful, tickling the tastebuds tenderly. Despite being tempted I have steered clear off the dessert section, but will return to try them out.

So, my strongest suggestion is that they infuse more uniqueness, cheer to their decor one that matches the name and the delightful food they serve. Full points for the food though and sincere regards to my waiter, Afsar, for his helpful suggestions.


Tropical Malta and Peri Peri Fries
Stuffed Aubergine Ravioli

A G K

The Studs Sports Bar& Grill, Juhu, Mumbai

***** RATED

Some of the good things in life come when you least expect it... we walked in to The Studs on a Friday evening with a similar air of least expectation. Located in Juhu at a stone's throw away from Novotel and being a corner-housed property, The Studs is easy to spot. The entry upto the sports bar is less than flattering and the lift leading to it could do with better maintenance. 

However, the staff and the ambience, once inside Studs is very inviting, spacious and welcoming. The large, wide couches at the corners for larger groups, interspersed with tables, is well laid out. The lighting is mellow, but bright enough to read the food and bar menu clearly. 

Among the cocktails, Grape Mojito ( we opted for the vodka base) as well as the French Martini strike the gold. They are worthy of the time and price though I would recommend they start using Absolut or Grey Goose instead of Smirnoff. The best part of the food is certainly the array of appetiszers on offer. The place boasts of a huge range for both, vegetarians and non vegetarians. From the Nachos and Jalapeno Poppers to  Chicken Sheesh Touk and the Teriyaki Chicken we found it hard to pick our favourite. All the 4 appetizers were equally delectable. 

In the main course, the rather distinct Diavola Con Pollo thin crust Pizza was truly enticing in appearance and taste as was the Fetuccini Primevara pasta. A high point of this eatery is that the dishes despite being a gourmet's delight, is moderately prized!! 

The staff are upbeat, helpful with suggestions, and are attentive. They just need more help at the bar I suppose as the drinks take their own sweet time to make an appearance, but the quantity served coaxed us to overlook the delay. Music, like the ambience was engaging, they were playing BeGees and BoneyM on a Bollywood Night (as was  notified outside the bar) much to my friends ' dismay, but then again, to err is human. 
Definitely a must visit place, the food is very delectable and a special round of applause for the chef on that.

A G K 



Jakarta Jubiliation


Prey, tell me why?!
Code Red!
Brothers in arms
Lara Djonggrang

The special pudding with Jackfruit and Coconut

A treat for the senses...

Cafe Battvia

Sculpted to perfection
Central Hall @Lara...
Cooling off
Another niche @Lara...




Delight for the senses
Emblem: Indonesia



Castle @Taman Mini
Squared up! The happening hub!

Owly God!
Butterflies on the wall!
Wedding Blues :)
Caved in



Lady in Red...
Chinese temple, Glodok 
My favourite Cafe@Jakarta


Malled entirely...

Gourmet Frogs served up live!

Reflecting in the Restroom @Cafe Battavia
Hospitality is the norm
Three Statesmen from Asia
Booted in by Bata

Landscape of Jakarta



Kaleidoscopic Kerala

Festive and fragrant

Pooling now...

Peace Prevails

Delicious Duck Delight
Graceful (Mohini) Attam!

Inviting!
The Snake Boat

Pondering by the Vembanad Lake

Lonely, lonely...Monday Morning!


...the backwaters

Flying start for the day!
Life goes by...

Tranquility personified




Habitat of happiness@ CGH Earth

When Love Sticks Around

Review of Danielle Dayney’s memoir,   When Love Sticks Around Rating: 5* Published: 15 November 2021 Pages 156 Publisher: Bell Isle Books...